Jmstl's thread-Part 3

[25yearsmlc]

Jm

I read some of the last thread, and I'm not clear on where you think you messed up.

The emotional backslide? This is so NOT a linear process, which I'm painfully aware of.

For whatever reason, I felt really down today and had to do a LOT of cognitive work to "snap" out of it.

So you're not alone. It's more about not acting on it, and you seem self aware enough there.

You will never regret GAL, even when it feels like the opposite of what you feel like doing, which includes tv binge watching and having a few beers (or a lot of beers).

Overcoming the inertia is KEY and it may take all of your willpower to do it somedays, but I don't think we can detach without GAL.

It gets better and the down times are shorter and fewer, in time.

One thing - the men I have met sometimes remind me of what I loved about my h, (he took good physical care of himself and knows a lot of science, for instance).

Don't assume that you'll come out wanting if your w is meeting OMs. Plus you are the father of her kids. The more lovingly you interact with them, the better.

Yes it's the right thing to do (being the best dad you can be) b/c your kids need you more now than ever.

But I also think it's an emotional turn on for their mother.

Hang in there.