Jm....I remember when my W moved out how hard it was to go to church functions without her, I felt like I was the only 1 there without their W. Group functions with family friends where hard as well, my W doesn't associate with them any more but I remember how hard it was as first to be their without her. The first time I went out to eat with my D's and she wasn't their or coming home for the first time.
What i can tell you is that I am almost 3 months into our SEP and it does get better!! I still think about her but the pain isn't as intense and I can fully function and engage in conversation without it effecting me like it once did. Just realize your pain is only temporary.
Getting used to your new norm is hard but I find myself wearing with a badge of honor now. Taking pride in being a single dad and raising 2 young children.
My D's have asked the same thing, can we see mommy, when we will see her, can I call her etc. Over time they will get used to it as well, I just try to be up front with them to make sure they know the schedule and when they will see mommy.
Just hang in there, stay positive and know it is only temporary. I will admit in the beginning I cried daily, on my way to work, on my way home from work, sitting at my desk at work, at first I couldn't even talk about it without getting emotional.
Release when you need to but know it does get better!
