Earlier this week I met with my counselor and when I explained the W's recent actions he read for me the signs of passive aggressive behavior. She has all but one. After doing some reading up, she's trying to manipulate me through P/A. She wants me to get angry and push her away. Now that I understand her behavior better I haven't fallen for it once. The results have been extremely confusing. 2 days after the change in my behavior (anti P/A) she came home from work and cuddled with me on the couch. This is the first time in 3 months.

Then today while I'm out and she's at home she texts me and says that our girl cat won't let her get anything done. She continues to say that she's tired of babysitting and that she'll be gone in a month. First of all this is her cat but during the bomb drop in May she told me that she was leaving both cats with me. I realize that all of this was to get a rise out of me but it's also interesting that since she can't blame me for her unhappiness it's now a cat's fault. Is there any way for her to healthily express this unresolved anger causing the P/A? Should I continue to ignore it?

BD: 5/28/17 "We're like roommates, there is no passion anymore"
Early October she is moving out so she can "think about what she really wants in life"
10/22/17 She's gone