[quote=Georgia Bulldogs]I'm still on restriction so I can't edit my post but didn't mean to say: I don't think any of us can edit our posts. I wish.
I'll say one thing about "lying". (I use quotes around "lying" b/c I maintain the right to avoid needless pain on others, with "white lies." like when my obese sister was getting married. On her wedding day she asked me if it looked as if she'd lost weight. I almost hesitated before lying and saying "yes, you look beautiful." These events must always be for someone else's benefit, not ours.)
In terms of real truth, I don't lie. However there's a difference between telling the truth and the right to our privacy.
My s31 asks too much about the divorce status, imo. I know he means well. I would tell the kids if I had ovarian cancer, but I don't want them to join me for the pap smear.
Make sense?
And I tell them if I don't feel comfortable discussing something, b/c I don't want to be in a position where I'm uneasy telling the truth, but won't lie. I mean, MUST I tell them all the lousy things their dad said or did our last week together?
No. It was bad enough to experience it, and he is their dad. Their DNA is half from him. I cannot believe that their resentment of him will at some point, be turned a bit inward.
There does seem to be a repeat of parental behavior around. Guys claim they'd "never be like" their dad. But they turn 40, 50 or 60, and a relatively high number of them DO what their Walk Away dads did.
It's strange. [/color]
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
