Try to remember that FB can be merely a highlight reel for people who want to rub their happiness and WONDERFUL LIFE in some one's face, or convince others AND themselves that their choices were all worth it!
Don't get me wrong. I totally understand the graduation pictures or a wacky fun thing you did, and I've posted pictures of my late mom on the anniversary of her passing away, with a note about remembering a great woman.
As for pictures or words about a new R after a marriage ends, particularly a marriage with children,
should not be posted.
1) at all, or 2) only after the divorce is final AND long over, and the kids are in the acceptance phase.
Let's get real.
If i met a GREAT GUY tomorrow and we began dating that night and we both felt the spark -- it would still take months of cautious optimism to grow and deepen into adult love
and after that, and only after that, would I make a public peep.
The over the top pictures are odd and in poor taste, at best. Intentionally cruel at worst.
I've heard of many people posting about their life on fb, only to learn later that their FB page had very little to do with what they were really experiencing. In fact I think it often over compensates. My sister's ex h posted about a trip his gf and he took to Ireland. Lots of impressive places and beer and then off to Italy they went!! Ta DAAAAA!
A month later that ex h called my sister about a reconciliation. He was "not happy at all" and wanted my sister to know that he "gets it. He F---ed up. Biggest mistake of his life"....
and she was engaged to someone. She told me she'd always feel sad for the kids and what she and they all had gone through. But she was in a different place and her new h really really made her THE priority in his life. She just felt that no matter how her ex had changed, he would never really put her first. She'd be very lucky if she matched his importance to himself as that would mean he had "really changed at a cellular level."
Too much water under the bridge. The point of this example is not about regrets so much as how his Facebook posts were much more about the TRIP, and not the R he was in.
BTW, he married that gf too. After asking my sister to take him back. My sister is lucky in that she got to hear the big regrets and that makes her in a tiny minority.
FB can be like a stage for actors who have stupid lines, from an adolescent script.
Not worth the toll on us to even look, much less take in. I hope that gives a bit of perspective. I remind myself of this when I'm tempted to look at h or OW.
I'm glad so far b/c I have never looked at his page or hers. I've been informed a bit too much, to be honest.
(BUT I had a dream of h and OW! It was horrible. But in my dream OW was a muttering hillbilly, so I'm going to stick with THAT image...
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
