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Damnit...fired up okcupid, and there she was...96% match too


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She is also online on the app and 30 minutes (at this writing) late dropping off the kidd, with no text to me explaining


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Hmmm... maybe lay low on the dating websites for now? Lots of personal healing and detachment needs to happen, no?


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I know it hurts but it's going to happen. I stopped snooping/looking around 2 mths ago. I still have access to our wireless account and could look up texts and pictures she has taken but have no interest in doing so. It doesn't help you detach.

Now for kid drop off that is something I would say something about especially if she is late. She should let you know if she is running late, etc.


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If she lies about what she was doing, should I confront her? Or not say anything.


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Well didnt have time for advice.

I very politely said "Would you mind letting me know what dating apps you are going to use, so I don't use them?" She laughed and was like Oh no, did we match?

I laughed and said yeah..96%! Then said, it's all good. I started seeing other people too.Enjoy your weekend. Then I turned around and went inside.


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If you confront her and she says yes, what are you going to do? Has she already filed for D? If not, would that cause you to file? If she admits what would change? I try to think a step ahead.


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Originally Posted By: Joseph9
If you confront her and she says yes, what are you going to do? Has she already filed for D? If not, would that cause you to file? If she admits what would change? I try to think a step ahead.


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Ok so she filed....you confront, what changes?


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No no. See /how/ I did it. I did not care she was on a dating site, just we are om the same one.

I did text after and said "I don't care what you do, but I want to be informed if you are running late"


Married 9: Together 11
M:37 W:35
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Bomb dropped 6/3/2017
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Separation Filed: 8/1/2017
Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017
Divorced: 10/5/2017
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