WW had EA in 2010 and went full NC 8 months later. Pieced for the most part the last 7 years. Ran into a brief hiccup last year(2016) with renewed contact with OM #1 because I had slipped back to my old ways and my GAL from 2010 didn't last but then she went back to NC. I thought I had been the attentive romantic husband until 5/2/17 when WW said "we should separate for awhile so I can clear my head. I don't know if I want to be married anymore." She asked me to go stay at my parents house as she has no immediate family here. I immediately refused and told her "you want to separate and potentially divorce...the door is right there and your free to use it because I'm not leaving". Lived under the same roof(she mostly slept on the couch) until late June when I confronted her about her drinking. Apparently when you hold someone accountable for their actions your "mean". She went to stay with good family friends for awhile because she "can't live under the same roof" with me.
After a few days I tracked her to a bar in the afternoon where she was sitting intimately close to another man. I took pictures with my phone. Then not my proudest moment I poured a glass of water on her head. She filed a report with the police however no charges were filed. She and my daughters went to AZ to visit her FIL which she has a very strained relationship with. Upon their return I stayed at my parents house for a couple weeks. Mid July I spent the weekend at the house and we drank a little wine and ML the first night I was there. That Sunday she said things weren't back to normal I agreed and went back to my parents house.
Her Uncle came for a visit and the day he left I went to the house to talk and help with some household tasks while my WW worked in her home office. We ate dinner together and noticed that our Golden Retriever wasn't outside with us. He was very sick and had encountered a few episodes leading up this day. He eventually passed away while my WW and I were comforting him. WW had a lot to drink and semi passed out on the couch.
I took advantage of the situation and grabbed her phone. Found that she had been texting 2 new OM's saying things like "I just need to get away from Raysd6" "My daughters are driving me crazy and I don't want to be around them". I confronted her and in no uncertain terms told her to "pack your #@*! and get the %&#@ out". She did and I returned to the house where I have been ever since.
She returned briefly for about 7 days because she was getting bad migraines and needed to sleep in her bed. She got drunk at an after funeral party and decided to hang out with extended family members half her age at a bar. I told her I'm done and I Uber'd home. Extended family returned her the next morning and she pretty much slept all day. A couple days later I got into her phone and discovered text exchange with OM from a couple weeks ago about how "we should get naked and work all this out physically" she replied "that might be the answer". Needless to say I was upset so I confronted her the next morning about some of her spending habits. She said "you and I are done" complaining about the "mean" texts I sent her. Came home from work and her and all her stuff was gone. I Group texted her and OM "If she does it to someone else she'll do it to you" "Once a cheater always a cheater" I also texted her a screen capture of the graphic exchange with OM.
My GAL activities: Running, gym, guitar, dressing nice, surfing, socializing with friend, IC, church, spending time with family
She's been staying at a friends house for the last two and a half weeks to "clear her head" and is scheduled to return 9/5/17. She expects me to return to my parents house for a week on week off at the house living arrangement. Since I've done nothing wrong, I don't feel that I should be the one to leave.
