Wife says that she had enough, files for divorce

[SwHubby]

Hi Sandi,

Thank you for commenting on my sitch. I have been lucky not experiencing fibromyalgia but I have met others with these symptoms.

Well, I think that W is quite educated regarding CFS, but that the lack of progression has been hurting her and that the time length of my illness has been wearing her down. She has stated on occasion that it has to change, without really saying what. But I guess the entire sitch, to go back to what we once had.

I think that your comment regarding respect feels like spot on. I feel so disrespected, and still get told by W that it is the other way around. Like the world had been turned upside down on occasion. My W has a quite conservative view on family and I think she expected me to take care of our home and of her, as well as being the major "earner". Even though she know about my illness, I think that the coldness and resentment has been building up in her during the years anyway.

Regarding L-stuff: W went on quite hard in the beginning to get sole custody and visitation rights for me to be 2 hours every other week, or if it was every week. Do not even remember, so much happened in a short period of time. However I managed to get 2,5 days/W without spending nights in my home. I accepted that for the time being to avoid conflict and court. During the summer I have tried to get her to let our D sleep in my home without success. I will make a last try this weekend, otherwise it has to be court next since time is running out. I have asked her what the problem is,and the answer showen that she does not have any clear rational arguments, just emotional. Her Idea is that I have to get 100% healthy, stay that way for at least a year without any symptoms, then D might sleep one night at my home,

i got alot of advice about my sitch from terapists (family issues) and L and she has no legal right to do this. The only thing that could help W is that I wait too long to act and that D is considered used to live with W, that it is her "home".