Sorry too doodler, cadet, eastn and swhubby because I didn't not see their replies before the posting of the latest text of me.
It is not really a tactic. I spend a lot of quality time with the kids last weeks on holiday. But also it took a lot of energy out of me. So I want some time for myself tomorrow. Like I said I allready celebrate his birthday.
Trying to save your marriage is indeed a real marathon and not a sprint...
I don't have an abusive situation or serious drama going on. At this point that never happened. Very strange, not?
I feels very save to meet my in-laws because they love me, that is also not the problem. Nevertheless my absence will probably not be appreciated... I told my kids I don't will be there and they understand. Funnny they want to know where I go hiking and go to the sauna Elise doesn't know that I don't go. I am leaving tomorrow in the early morning. Time for myself.
@SwHubby: I have indeed the same feeling and struggling. I don't want to pretend that nothing has changed.
