Dayumm... $ucks to find out this way. Did you know she was having a A before this? This is bloody jarring. I particularly like that you destroyed the laptop - I would've done something exactly like that.
Yeh, keep this info in your backpocket. No need to let her know that you know all of this. Sorry man, but maybe this gives some explanation to the speed at which everything moved.
No. And I truely believe that she didn't have an affair before she left. I think that when she left, she DID want to save the marriage. But once she decided not to, she wanted to explore.
From what I had gathered, this was a person she just met, probably through another app. Her messenger said they had just connected minutes before. From the conversation it looked like he was a traveler passing through the area. What hurt the most was the pics. She was like "Wow, so handsome!" That right there is what destroyed me in the moment. It appears they did not know anything about each other, and there were no other unknown names in her messenger list.
She did tell a friend she is not relationship material, 360 degrees of crazy, and had no intention of dating or getting in a relationship, but would not mind some 'hot sex' if she could get it. That really hurt too, thinking of another man putter his hands on her.
I did see that she had sent pics of my messages to her to her friends. They were messages I sent about finding peace with the situation. She forwarded them to friends saying things like "I think we are starting to get to a place where we can coparent successfully."
Yet, she would get upset when I would talk to MY friends about our conversations. Feels like a betrayal.
But, I had to let this go. We were not together, and she was not trying to save the relationship at the time. And since she filed, she is legally allowed to do whatever she wants.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
