In fact, my D lives with me now but the only way I could convince her mom to let her live with me was to continue to paying her child support. So I have my daughter with me, and pay my ex-wife child support. My daughter simply doesn't want to hang out. She prefers hanging out with her friends.
I've even taken her to a few family therapist with me to see if we could work on things. I tried to get her to attend church with me. I've asked her for a long time now to spend some time but she just doesnt want to.
I know for a fact her mother has told her lots of lies about me inlcuding that I cheated on her. Ummm, her mom left me and I was the one that tried to save the marriage. I have never cheated on any woman I've ever dated. But ex-wife was angry and was determined to destroy me. Any time we would have a disagreement, she would try to take me to court for more child support. Eventually the judge saw right through her.
However, ex-wife tried to get me back and by that time I was already dating another woman ad told her I had moved on. It was then that ex-wife started bashing me. She even chased my new girlfriend around town in her car running red lights etc.
I will never give up on my kid, ever. I let her know that I'm there for her and always ask her day was etc. All I get is a grunt in return or "leave me alone".
I've spent countless hours talking to IC about this and have tried every suggestion he has recommended to no avail. And he also specializes in child psychology.
He's told me that this is common for parents when one has a personality disorder and that at this point, all I can do is let her know I love her and that I'm there for her.
