WAW, is there hope?

[KGuy]

Thanks for the reply Anotherstander, its amazing the amount of flooding. The 500 year flood is behind the back fence on a deep lot (about 100 ft) and the water came about halfway into the back yard. I marked an area that L'll survey later, but i bet it was about 2 to 2.5 ft above the 500 year flood. It was about 1.5 to 2' from the house. Luckily the projections didn't come true or I'd be in deeper (so to speak). As for the power, i used to live in Galveston and have always tried to be prepared. Strange that all those years i lived in Galveston, i never experienced a Hurricane and didn't have to use the generator. Here in Houston, I've had to use it for three hurricanes/power outages. As with your folks, that was the extent of my issues thankfully.

Power is back on now, so trying to do some major landscape things on my list outside while the ground is still soft.

I pushed the W a little on offering for her to use the stove at "our" house (they are gas and her Mom's was electric),b ut she adamantently refused so i dropped it. She did give in on my other offers of "anything" and requested some batteries. Even though she didn't want me to get any gas, I took an empty gas can she had out and filled it with some gasoline. When she dropped off the kids, i asked her if she had gotten it and she said she "yes but didn't even use it". So more to your point that she wants me to know she didn't need me, or at least that how i took it after thinking about it an that fits in with what you are saying. A good thing about it is there is at least a dialog going on between us now, so that is something. Before she would say as little as possible and was cold and angry.

Got another situation I'd like advice on if anyone care to. According to our mediated agreement, i have the kids the standard (1st, 3rd, 5th WEs) and every Thursday (overnight until school) and Tuesday (5-7:30PM). Those additional days are meant to break up the time between the weekend visits so I don't have so long between visits.
When I got the kids last night, the W asked if i could switch the Tuesday for a Monday. She said it would be easier for her to watch the kids on the Tuesdays and she could go to a class she wanted to go to. She said i could have them longer. Typically one of her classes last till 10 or 10:30pm, so if i got them until then, I'd get an additional 3 hours on that night.

As i see it, there are a few negatives to this:
1) Those classes weren't helpful to the marriage I believe and i think someone in them actually encouraged her to get the divorce. On the flipside, she iis actually trying to improve herself in these clases. When we were married, i didn't mind watching the kids while she went to the classesfor the most part.
2) As i've seen mentioned around here and agree, i don't think i should help "ease her pain" as they say on watching the kids.
3) her picking them up around 10ish is quite late for a night before they need to get up early.
4) I would mean I'd have an extra day between the weekday visits
5) The Mondays would be close to the weekend and might interfere with my other house clean-up/repair.

The positives:
1) I'd get more time and may be able to negotiate an overnight on that night
2) Who knows, maybe the class would be positive for her.

Obviously the negative outweight the positives when not weighted properly. As you may be able to tell, i'm leaning towards not doing it, but the main positive i came up with without really reaching is a biggie. Right now, i am on the fence because she could give me them overnight and i take them to daycare in the morning. I don't want to enable her though and i feel she needs to feel the burden of choosing to not bend on having primary custody of the kids. I wanted 50/50 or custody, but she was real adamant about her having them. This would be one of the inconveniences of that. Me not switching would help me slightly. Anyway, I'd like a unbiased opinion as i am worried I am leaning towards denying her based on spite of past events. I don't think i am, but perhaps i'm too close to it to realize otherwise. Is there more positives that i'm blinded to here?