Yesterday I messaged her and asked if she packed Ds shirt for school. In hindsight, I should not have, trusted she would, and if she did not, deal with it then.
Yeh, it's okay. That's not the end of the world and now you know not to do it. Take the mindset of a single parent and when the kids are not with you, they're with a guardian who has to fully manage parental responsibilities.
With the single parent mindset - I basically make sure there is everything I and the kids need and that I don't have to go to W for it. If that means double sets of clothes and what not, then that's that. Have zero reliance on W for stuff. No reminders about stuff and events. If she didn't pack something during hand-off, make sure you have it and you're taking care of it. will have to do something about homework collaboration and stuff, but that can totally be business like.
