Jmstl's thread-Part 2

[Jmstl]

Do you have any idea on the psycology of that? It just seems so counterintuitive to think you can attract them back by basically saying you aren't attracted to them anymore

25 posts this sometimes, I always get a kick out of it because it describes the psychology so well:

Here are lines from Swingers that may help.

MIKE
And what if I don't want to give up on
her?

ROB
You don't call.

MIKE
But you said I shouldn't call if I
wanted to give up on her.

ROB
Right.

MIKE
So I don't call either way.

ROB
Right.

MIKE
So what's the difference?

ROB
The only difference between giving up and
not giving up is if you take her back
when she wants to come back. See, you
can't do anything to make her want to
come back. You can only do things to
make her not want to come back.

MIKE
So the only difference is if I forget
about her or pretend to forget about her.

ROB
Right.

MIKE
Well that [censored].

ROB
It [censored].

MIKE
So it's almost a retroactive decision.
So I could, like, let's say, forget about
her and when she comes back make like I
just pretended to forget about her.

ROB
Right...or more likely the opposite.

MIKE
Right... Wait, what do you mean?

ROB
I mean first you'll pretend not to care,
not call - whatever, and then,
eventually, you really won't care.

MIKE
Unless she comes back first.

ROB
Ah, see, that's the thing. Somehow they
don't come back until you really don't
care anymore.

MIKE
There's the rub.

ROB
There's the rub.

Yes, 25's post was very helpful. The lines from swinger's was very good too.

Yesterday I messaged her and asked if she packed Ds shirt for school. In hindsight, I should not have, trusted she would, and if she did not, deal with it then.

I have made a concious effort to not read or respond to anything unless necessary and critical. (thankfully most apps,texts and my fitbit, will give a preview of the message, so I can tell)

Also, in reference to me sending her a pic of the item. She knows I am not going to pay for it. She has hinted before at me paying for things like moving trucks to move the piano, and her stuff. I just did not respond. The only thing I have paid for related to her stuff recently was a dolly I bought to move the piano, because there wasn't time for her to go get it herself, and she paid me back on the spot for it, and I let her keep it.