Yeah don't do that. It is pursuing and you're finding ways to contact her. Let it go. This can also be you trying to fix her life. Just don't do it. She wants a trailer, she's more than capable of getting it done. Don't find ways to contact her.
Agreed with this^^^. And by showing her a picture of it, to ME, it almost suggests that you would pay for part or all of it. And or you have the expectation of a response from her, which is a form of pursuit. You are not her helpful buddy. At least not now.
Good point. Now that I think about it, I guess it is kind of like when she sends messages like "Don't forget xyz is happening." Granted it is strictly child related, but I feel like, "Yeah I got this handled, I'm a big boy, I don't need you to remind me"
"I"m a big boy, I don't need you to remind me", sounds like a defensive jab.
Whereas just saying "Yes I remembered/did not forget" and leaving it at that,
sounds simple, which it is.
And to echo something others said, I cannot think of a single case around here in which a WAS came home b/c their spouse was pursuing them.
For now, your job is to be your best self, by GAL and being upbeat to give her something to miss.
She can't miss you if you are not gone.
Make sense?
25, I never said I am a big boy. I never get defensive with her comments. It is a simple Thank you, or I will. The big boy comment was in my head. It was never said to her.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
