In my mind, that's what you do when you love someone; and I don't have "walls". What does that even mean?
You will have walls up after this experience, and lowering them again for W or another will be a real challenge. Walls are for self-preservation. It's not really something you do consciously which is why it's so hard to "lower" them.
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Then later in the R she alludes to the fact that her walls are back up. I think this is stupid, and get a little miffed, but don't make much of it either.
It's a huge red flag when someone says that.
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She is basically narrating to me the borderline traits relationship roadmap! Pull the other in close like it is the best R ever, then push them away to keep them from hurting you.
I keep laughing at all the stuff it took me to 40 to figure out...
Interesting reaction, I don't find it funny at all. My GF told me her walls were back up after we had been dating over a year and I took it very seriously. We worked on our communications and had some deep conversations and eventually months later she said she felt safe enough that they were lowered again. Next time someone says that to you then look at it as a big warning sign that says "BD coming" and try to get things back on track.
