Jmstl's thread-Part 2

[Jmstl]

No I think I get the point I was asking from a pure statistical stance

Unfortunately, we don't have any numbers for you, but I can tell you this much........over the years that I've been reading threads on the board, the W's that did want their H back, were interested b/c he let go and stopped trying to get her back. He would move ahead and enjoy his life without her........and without his attention on her.

LBH's are afraid to let go, b/c they have this idea it will push the W farther away. No, pursuing pushes her away! When she sees you not interested or bothered by her, and moving forward......... it attracts her.

Sandi says these things much more compassionately than I do. I tend to be very blunt. That's the Marine still in me. Listen to her. She's absolutely right about this. It's not guaranteed to go this way but there are no guarantees with anything in life. This just gives you your best chance.

I appreciate the advice that everyone has given so far. I am actively working on detaching, GALing, etc. It is hard, as everyone would agree, but it has been getting better every day. I'm not looking for perfection in my DBing, but I am looking for progress (On my end), and I think I am doing well, in that respect.