Lost on how to save my marriage!

[Parkema]

Hi Tx

3-years amazing persistence especially sharing the same house!

I really do suffer from the patience thing and am a Mr Fix-it type person, this episode in my life has highlighted that and maybe I did this a lot when we were together In fact I did most things just to please her (typical Mr Nice Guy) and keep the peace. I’m sorry to piggyback Joes thread but I have a few questions…

1. Do you have kids together?
2. Looking at the timeline here it would suggest almost a 4-year period between discovery and reconciliation, if you had not filed do you think she would still be reluctant to work on the MR?
3. Tx did you notice peaks in her/their focus on the A and then falls?
4. Was she more willing to work at the A sometimes and then taper the focus off it or was it just solely focused on her AP/LO?
5. Did you notice a dilution in their interactions as time went by?
6. Do you feel if you weren’t “pleasant around the house” and stonewalled her this would have escalated the RC or do you feel being approachable for her but with your boundaries this method aided you?
I’m sorry for so many questions and appreciate if you don’t want to share too much of your experience but any insight for those that are going through this process is of more help than I can mention.

Apologies Joe again for crashing your thread.

Mark.