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Thanks job, for your reply and the guidance you offer us all here.

I heard something today about damaging beliefs and one woman admitting/realising that whenever her H acted the way she wanted him to she couldn't get passed all the times he didn't and unc9nsciously 0unished his good behavior as being inadequate based on previous less attractive behaviour.

In essence instead of encouraging the better behaviour she reacted coldly due to her feelings in general about their R. Her reaction discouraged H to keep trying and reinforced the behaviour/ interactions she wanted to abolish.

I have been aware of this concept a long time now but today this resonated with me. Due to how we have been for so long has affected my ability to show fully my appreciation for the small positives I see. I have shown appreciation.II have expressed it and I have cherished it. BUT I have remained somewhat distant. I have shown love and respect whilst keeping distant.

I want to review this and adjust where possible. This is not who I want to bei don't do this believing it will improve things but with the belief that it could. Whether it does or not is beyond my control but I think I have squandered some potential connecting opportunities due to my limiting beliefs.

Long story short, I continue tweaking my approach and will do so. One day I may decide to move on but for now I am happy to move forward.

Thanks for reading. Be well