I get that, and I am living my life for me. But I also want to share my life with W. I know right now that isn't really possible, but I pray that she will come around. In the meantime, I am living for me.
She might come around, she might not. I know that if you pursue her you have a way less chance of her coming around. Focus on you and become the best version of yourself you can possibly be. Plan your future as if it doesn't include her at all. As you said, live your life for you. If anything will bring her around, that'll do it. The upside is even if it doesn't, you won't care. Your life will be going just fine without her. The thing that impacts walk away's or wayward's that want out is to realize that their spouse doesn't need them, that they'll be just fine without them.
Ok but how often does it get them to come back or want to come back
MUCH more often than going the passive route. It's human nature to want what we can't have. If you're a guarantee then she won't want you. Don't be a guarantee for her.
