Wife Wants to Leave Marriage 5

[leahsue]

My first H (22 years) got in my kids ears and lied, lied, lied, about me. He is a very persuasive person, a true narcissist, but no one was fooled, EXCEPT MY KIDS.

But listen to me.

I ALWAYS took the high road. I loved them straight right through it all, sat them down one time and said I gave this marriage my best shot, and it just didn't work out, and never defended myself or trashed him again. People kept telling me, truth and love always wins.

IT IS TRUE. 17 years later my kids and I are closer than ever. The truth DOES come out. You don't have to say a word, and in the end, if you take the high road, your S13 will admire you for it. Karma, God, Higher Power, whatever it is that's out there for us all, takes care of things. You be the man you want your son to be one day. Have no regrets. Once words are spoken, they can't be taken back.

Please, please trust me on this. You said your S13 already knows she's cheating. That's enough. You don't need to defend yourself to him. If she lies to him about you, he will eventually figure it out.

Don't lay this burden on him. You don't have to lie to him, but you don't have to directly answer his questions to "protect" him against his mother. He will always love her, and you, no matter what. Make this as easy and painless on HIM as you can. And you have a lot of control over that.

Be the man you will be proud of, 5 years from now. It matters.