This us where disagree. As long as my W is married to me. And her actions continue to hurt this family. Then it's my business. S13 already knows about her cheating, so if asks if that has anything to do it the divorce. Then I will not lie to him. Whether he likes his mother or dislikes her is not my concern.
Just giving him the truth if he asks for it specifically. Plus the fact that his mother lies about everything the advice was not to lie to him. Because W would fill in the blanks with lies. If S13 looks at W as the bad guy, it's the image she out out there. In her own words, "At least I had a good 13 years with him." So W could careless about her image, because her mind is more focused on chasing d*ck. Be isn't gwtting all the details, but he knows that his mother did mess up big time.
I have no intent on making this easy for W. Solely I had to tell S13 about the divorce. I solely had to attend counseling, while my W went to party instead. W needs to feel s these consequences for her actions and will not take the blows from those consequences for her. The random comments was something I did once a day. It wasn't intended for her to see. But if her friends reported back to her, then I honestly didn't care. But I stopped for now.
