We HAD one, and then she blew it up. We're not divorced, and while we have an agreement, she's disputing it and we don't go to court until the 15th (which is a motion hearing that will decide if she can withdraw the agreement, or if we're actually divorced). Under the state formula, STBXW owes me child support, but I had my L wipe it out (it was like $50 a month, and we don't need it, and it's not in anyone's best interest at this time) with the excuse that W had higher travel costs. Everything "expense" wise like extracurriculars, medical expenses (I cover her insurance, but it has deductables) is supposed to be 50/50.
There was some alimony/support, but it ended this month. I was also sending additional money outside of the agreement for D. I agree I don't want to support STBXW's laziness, which is why I told her I wasn't sending money anymore, but if D lacked for anything, we could talk about the best thing for her.
Honestly, though, I don't have trouble paying for anything that D needs like haircuts.
As I wrote this, I got another request for money for this weekend by text. I'm sure the temper tantrum or attempted guilt trip will suck when I say no, but I'm done being a doormat.
