"Your no response means to me that your ok with this? Alright"
She is still playing the game. Can you not see how she is like someone counting to three......and wanting you to jump in and stop her? Look how many times she has texted you.
And YOU are jumping around as if on a bed of hot coal. Settle down and get control of yourself. You continue to ask the same questions, which have been answered many times. Instead of wanting to know what to say if she asks this or that, you need to think about Chris and where he stands.
If you do not take charge of your life right now, in this particular situation, she will keep you in a hot mess from now on. Now get a grip and decide that you will not be bullied, threatened, tested, or manipulated by your WW. IMHO, that would be worse than a D!
You were told several times to tell her you did not want a D, but that you would respect her decision. Did you tell her? If so, then there is nothing else to say, especially in a text.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
You were told several times to tell her you did not want a D, but that you would respect her decision. Did you tell her? If so, then there is nothing else to say, especially in a text.
I have told her twice now!
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
Hmmm.. here is my 2 cents. This is what I would respond with:
"I understand that you are upset and frustrated. I am sorry to see you're feeling this way. I am respecting your need for time and space during this separation. I am willing to listen and talk to you when you feel ready to do so. Let me know."
Read Sandi's reply to you again. This is all horsesh!t that your W is feeding you. Do not react.
Your wife is projecting her issues on to you and making it all your fault.
She wanted to seperate and for you to chase her? That's comical. Mine did the exact same thing. I never once chased her and now she is regretting her decision to leave me. She calls my mom crying all the time.
Don't take the bait because that's exactly what it is... bait.
Don't play her game, dude. She's trying to control you, and make you feel like you've screwed up. You haven't. SHE is the one who wanted out, not you. Telling you that it's "your fault" that she is detaching herself from you because you're not at her beck and call is just manipulation.
Think about this logically. "You didn't respond to my text fast enough so I am going to divorce you." Does that sound AT ALL reasonable?
After her barrage of texts message which I did not respond to she sent a message to remind me to move some money into this account we hold to pay our CC - which is business as usual after getting paid. When I did respond to her text all I said was "hey, I just moved the money." And she said thanks.
Last night late night she sent a message; "Can you please be sure you bring back a clear storage bin from your parents house when you go home next? It has some personal letters in there I really would like to have" I responded with a Yes.
I texted her this morning telling her I know today brings many emotions and that I am thinking about her. - dads passed on this day. She responded with "Thanks".
Other than that; I left town yesterday with friends and heading to the lake now. I'm going to maintain darkness; and NC and try to GAL this weekend.
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
