Sorry to hear you were affected, I hope you're back to normal soon! I was born and raised in Houston and still have a lot of family there. They were all slammed pretty hard, but thankfully no long term damage, just a lot of inconvenience and disruption.
Originally Posted By: KGuy
DBing, I've been weak on the NC front, but with good reason i think. I actually initiated a conversation to ask what she needed since we are both out of power for the hurricane that just went through.
That's understandable, good reason to reach out.
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1) i found i'm not detached as much as i'd like to be and immediately jumped to the conclusion that perhaps it was a guy seeking her attention 2) If it was innocent and the guy was married like I believe, the W is going out of her way to not reach out to me for help.
Yes most WAS's do not want ANY help from the LBS. After BD my W would ask complete strangers for help rather than ask me. It wasn't until about a year ago (4 years post BD) that she started reaching out for help again, and still does so pretty regularly. I don't mind, she has a lot of health issues and can use the help and I can do it while remaining completely detached. Anyway, I'm sure that'll change for you some day but I know how it hurts to know your WAS wants nothing from you, but it was nice of you to offer.
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In this emergency situation though i am wondering should i still be trying a full detachment? My IC says this is the time to reach out,after all this is my W in a emergency situation.
I think it's fine considering the situation, but if you offer help and she declines then let it go. Don't keep looking for excuses to show up unexpectedly.
