Ok just want some help from some of the vets on here. So just a quick recap of my situation. Wife said she was done end of April. By end of May I found out during separation she had sex with another man. I confronted her about it and told her I was not willing to be plan b. And was done until she was 100 percent in this. She ended it with him(was one night drunk in a bar and hooked up). About four weeks of me pretty much being done and door closed on our relationship she started to really engage with me. And we worked really hard(both of us). And we got to a point where our relationship was better than it ever was. I worked hard on my faults of letting life get in the way of me and her. She has worked on opening up and talking and just being a better person. I have really enjoyed these last few weeks. Have moved into her apartment she got when she left. So really good on all those fronts.
Now on to the parts I am struggling with. We are both really open now with each other we have talked more about the dark hidden things we all try and bury about ourselves and I have really enjoyed learning new things about my wife and she has said how much so loves for me to share my struggles. But I think I am also very guarded because I don't want to give her to much ammo to hurt me if we split again. Is this normal?
Do you ever regain all the trust and love you had for your partner?
I really am loving life. I'm glad our family is whole again. I just wonder does the pain from the little blip in our life ever get easier to deal with. Will I ever be able to look at this and not almost have a panic attack wondering when the other shoe is going to drop
