This is just awful right now. I am second guessing everything I thought about how I handled fights in the past. Do I fight for her; or did I just sit back? Because of being so passive I feel like I just sat back. So don't I need to 180 and fight now?? Am I really not to say anything to her right now?
Try changing how you look at this. You've NOT being passive. It's quite the opposite--doing "nothing" is a deliberate act in this context. It's also something extremely hard for you to do based on your personality. That's not passive, that's strength. That's growth. That's a refusal to be manipulated.
Be consistent. Your 180 here is refusing to be disrespected and manipulated by her. You've GOT this, hang in there!
