I don't post much about my infrequent communications with my EXW. Suffice to say 8 yrs give or take post BD she still can't deal with things in a mature way. Still has to throw her hurt into every conversation. I very rarely respond, only if it's about the adult kids and then most of time it's the same thing.
I know my oldest and youngest, now adults have said to her "If your going to talk bad about Dad just stop, we will not listen, we know who and what he stands for". Until she does the work this is what your going to get.
You have chosen your path in this and have lived it well. I think you embody what it means to really grow up and live as a mature, strong responsible adult. It's really we who learn the lessons and live what I call a more considered life and it makes all the difference in the world. Life is a wonderful thing, you just need the right perspective.
Hang in there. I truly respect the journey you are living.
