Everything you all are saying I totally understand. I feel helpless. Sitting back and not saying anything is not cool...I can just picture tomrw when she shows up with a stack of D papers.
How can I summon the vets! Sandi! Help.
Hehe! I just chuckled at summoning the vets. Sorry I don't mean to make light of your situation, but I have wished this in the past too.
You've just rattled her by setting one simple boundary - don't come over without letting me know. She wants you to mope, beg, and be miserable, but you stood tall and she couldn't take you showing some assertiveness and control. Don't give her the satisfaction by showing her that you're swimming in your own pity pool waiting for her to throw you a lifeline.
I relate to the feeling of helplessness. In the beginning every little thing seems like Mt. Everest and that if you take a wrong step, you're going to plunge down. But, trust me, you're just on a rough stroll right now through some rough bushes.
Sitting back and not saying anything right now is exactly cool and what she doesn't expect you to do.
Whatever you're picturing she's going to do - like come over with a stack of papers - just let yourself feel that emotion, and then process it and let it go. Easier said than done for sure, but you've just started your detachment process.
Stay strong! All of us know what you're going through. You are not alone.
