For nearly 2 weeks now W acts like nothing ever happened. No BDs, no talk of D. I think that she believes that breaking down and offering up that she had been through a lot recently was an adequate explanation.
This action from your W is the preferred action from waywards. In other words, she does not have to apologize or give an humilitating account and answer her H's questions, nor repent for her terrible betrayal and disrespect of her H..........or humbly ask for his forgiveness. She does not subject herself with discussions of choosing therapy or some other unpleasant route in repairing the damages she has caused. She prefers to give the most lame excuse she can offer, and be on good behavior for a short while.........deceiving her H by acting as if nothing ever happened, and that they can just pick up where they had left off........before all this had turned ugly.
Lots and lots of problems with that situation.
This is a pseudo reconciliation where the deep issues are swept under the rug. She does not want piecing. She wants to skip it and act as if nothing ever happened. However, her resentment and disrespect is still rampant.
(I'm having trouble with my IPad).
Exactly my thought. In fact, that is probably why I back in this boat after the first go-round 3 years ago.
So what is your recommendation?
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
