I've realized a big hurdle for me in the process is facing my wife's rage. I've always known she's had a very mean side, and I'm starting to realize how much of that I'm going to face in the near future.
holding,
My wife (now ex-wife) used (and still uses) her anger to control people. She's very good at it. I paid careful attention to how she's able to control and manipulate through fear. I started using her techniques on her, but I'm juiced them up a few notches. That got her attention.
I don't like being mean and nasty, but I needed her to understand that I could match anything that she could hand me and I'd raise the bar. She knows I won't back-down and that makes life a lot easier for me. I went from passive pleaser to pissy pugilist (metaphorically) in a short amount of time. And it was good.
