My husband filed for divorce

[LAJar]

Update: Not much has happened since I last posted, until today. I have been completing some final projects on the house so it's presentable when we begin to sell. H came by the house (he's not been by in over a week) and saw the workers, so he called me at work. He asked what they were doing there and why had I not told him about this? I did and it's all in our text messages. I told him that he hasn't bothered to come by or call me for anything other than D, so I didn't think he cared to be updated on renovations. In some part of the convo (and in anger), I threw out my suspicions that he was now seeing someone. It got ugly from there and said if I wasn't taking care of wifely duties, she would. Hurtful, but suspicions confirmed and I hung up. I went to a private room to call back and he wouldn't answer but then began to text. Again, more hurtful things being thrown out & him saying I'm a victim & take no responsibility. I then stopped and just texted that he'll get the divorce. I'm lashing out because I'm hurt, but I will move on. I married forever or at least with the intent to put in the effort to try if there were issues could resolve. I take responsibility for my faults. I am working on myself, will make changes and continue to do so even without him. I acknowledged how our lack of SL made him feel like I didn't want him and was hurtful. I get it and am sorry. END OF TEXT. He responded he was sorry too and that's it.

While I'm at work, my dad has been going over to check on the progress of the projects. He went by the house and the poor workers said he came in like a bat outta hell. Asked who they are and what they were doing there (as if that wasn't obvious). They aren't fluent in English, so I guess we wasn't able to get it across that he wanted them to go. What I don't understand is that he left and only comes by when I'm gone. No phone calls to me other than giving D $ numbers. Why does he care what I'm doing with the house. These were all things we were plannning on doing anyway. He's moved on, just leave me alone & let me take care of this. Again, he used this as a way to point out my controlling nature. Is it controlling or am I just trying to be practical and take care of our investment? I guess that's why we're not together - two very different views of the same situation. I can't continue to let him just dump on me. I know that's not DB'ing, but if all is lost, does it really matter? It was clear to me the last time we spoke.

I'm a little numb as to the confirmation of another person. I suspected it when he left and removed his cell from the family plan, put extra security on the cell (they sent a conf letter to the house). His social media was limited to one site that is open, but one month prior got FB & Instagram - said he hated it prior. He believes it's not cheating because he's gone (been less than 2 months) and said it's been over for a long time (we closed on this house in April). But in all honesty, when your husband of almost 10 years leaves and there's absolutely no contact with you, what else could it be that would keep him away? I'm not saying he was so happy with me at that moment that he'd be itching to run back, but not even a flicker of interest. Greener grass will do that.

With that being said, he continues to offer $ amounts based on nothing. He's going to have a rude awakening when it comes time to discuss real numbers. I am going for a consultation with a lawyer on Friday and am looking to set up another.