below From Benni8 - if you haven't read his sitch, do so from the beginning.
We want to fix things.. try to get through to them.. make them see our way. But in truth its controlling. There is nothing to fix.
When you fell in love in the past, the buzz was the risk. You were giving your feelings to someone you didnt really know. But they were giving it back to you. Point being is that you were you.. you werent DB'ing you were you and it was enough.
Same applies now. You are enough now. They have left because they arent happy. They arent getting what we gave them in the beginning. i.e. happy go lucky, fun times, laughs etc..
It became more organised... Because you think thats what grown ups do right?
But underneath they werent attracted to that.
You need to tap into you. What you were before. And as she did in the beginning your paths will come back together if you are right.
I want my mrs to come back when she has the 100% freedom and option to go elsewhere.
Thats where the "special in love feeling" comes from. knowing they chose you.
They cant chose you when you are scared confused, trying to get them back.
Take a deep breath, write down all the things you are thankful for having (even small stuff like having nice teeth/eyes!).
Even though it sounds hippy, it makes you realise that life could have been sh*t, in a wheelchair etc.. but it isnt for you, you have all the things you have, and all you have to do to potentially get your relationship back is just be yourself and let nature take its course!
Nothing to get strung up about is it? Chill out and be yourself.. stop living through them in any thought or action and you will be free.
