Quote: I'm sure there's a 180 I can do but the only one I can think of is to not bring it up...
Are you still showing him the list of daily positive? With his prior reactions when you started doing this, I have gotten the impression that your H and you are very similar in how encouragement fosters your motivation to stay with the endeavor. The very reason why you selected to go back to Weight Watchers, could be the very thing he needs to want to quit smoking...
Quote: Positives:
1> Husband came to me when he was struggling and TALKED to me. Let me in on what he was going through and what he was thinking.
2> He told me of some strategies he had come up with to sneak cigarettes... I told him the strategies I did when I was at my worst to sneak food. I think this was good cause it gave us a chance to laugh about it.
3> Him coming to me about this...sharing himself is such a huge deal to me. I love him so much!!
This might be the kinda of stuff he needs to hear to act on his desire to quit and to stay with it. Also include...
Quote: And I'm sooo incredibly proud of him for coming to me rather than sneaking around and making me his enemy.
I really thinks he needs to hear this.
... and when he tells you he went the day without a smoke, make sure that makes the list everytime.
Quote: Where do I draw the line between DBing and Standing up for myself.
You came up with the answer all by yourself, but just want to validate ... the two are not mutally exclusive, in fact ... good DBing is to find ways to draw each other closer as you stand up for yourself! ... and you have become really good at that! Just have to remember to remain patient because it still can take some doing to find those ways.
... and you have become really good at that! 
Just have to remember to remain patient because it still can take some doing to find those ways.
