Points very well taken. I will revert myself back to dark/NC/detachment starting now. There is now no need for contact until the day her dad passes which will be a text; which in fact is something I will never NOT do regardless of how this works out.

But leading up until then and after that I will maintain my 180 to gain self-confidence; understand boundaries, and understand co-dependency.

Do you have any suggestions for those topics?

M:30 W:28
T:9 MR:2.5
NoKids
Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16
Move back in: 1/17
BD: 8/15
She moved out: 9/1