Transforming into a Pillar of Strength

[Underdog]

Oh, PIB! I was congratulating you, not trying to get you to go somewhere else.

Smile, sweetie. I believe you handled your boundaries well. But here's the best part of your post, one I think you should really focus on:

I guess I need to be focused on that instead of focusing on my FEAR that he won't ever quit.

I should ACT AS IF he's sincere in his desire to quit in a month.

PIB, you're now someone who is MORE than qualified to show how to make big changes that stick. Right? Show him your determination, along with your loving support, and I believe he will see this as something he can do (and should do).

I know you said it was a condition before moving back in. Well, that barn door is open and the animals have fled. This screams at me that you love this man enough to overlook his faults. You've already done the accepting, PIB. Now it's just time to follow your own advice.

A big hug, sweetie!

Betsey

p.s. Believe me, I have issues with Mr. Wonderful's tendency to reduce stress by grabbing a beer on his way in the door. You have to know I know this path really well. But my nagging him to stop didn't work...