My W, in a few weeks after BD, went out on a coffee date with a coworker who is also separated. Nothing came of it and nothing seems to be going on - as far as I can tell.
If something did, most definitely a deal breaker for me. I wouldn't consider even for a second a recon with W if she was still working in the same place. It will be tough for her to switch jobs right now, and for the next few years, for a number of reasons - but I wouldn't give a $hit about all those reasons.
It would be simple - as long as she's in the same workplace, Imma be out of the picture. there would be no negotiation.
