25 there is still going to be stuff in there you can control and stuff you can't. I think you need to break the problem down. First thing I would do if I were you, consult another lawyer and make sure yours is on top of things. I'm not convinced. Getting financial records should not be this difficult.
It's when we feel like a victim who can't control the outcome of our situation that we feel things like fear and anger. When we can self-advocate and take control and be assertive we have a place to guide those emotions in a productive and pro-active manner.
Please look at your situation from an outsider's perspective. What would you counsel someone to do if in your exact situation?
