Don't buy her anything, but do help the kids make or buy her something. At 1 and 6 they can't exactly go shopping themselves, nor are they probably very much in tune with mom's bday! So help them out, she'll appreciate that a lot more than if you buy her something.
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In July, my specific goal was to reconcile by November. That was before the D announcement. I am still making that my goal, however.
I think people misunderstand that part of DR. I don't think Michele meant to set some particular date for reconciliation, but it seems like most people interpret it that way. Rather, set goals for yourself on self-improvement. Things that are within your control. Set a goal of taking a painting class, or sculpting class, or losing X number of pounds. If you're set on making W-based goals then make them reasonable, like "receive a compliment from W by November". You can't set a goal for recon, because that timeline is completely up to her. It's like setting a timeline for an alcoholic to quit drinking in 3 months. You can't MAKE them quit drinking, all you can do is keep the way paved and smooth for them. Same with her.
