Jmstl's thread-Part 2

[Jmstl]

Yup. It's pursuing.

I wouldn't place too much emphasis on the 30 day timeline - it's just too short to turn things around completely. Well, crazy stuff can happen, but I would encourage you to drop expectations below zero - in the minus territory.

Also, D is not the end. You control when you are done. D is a piece of paper. I am sure some of the vets will come and give some good feedback on that.

Take the D out of your mind - I know it's hard. But it's only time for you to take stock of yourself, healing, and getting your emotional and mental sanity back.

Sorry being harsh about the 30 days, but needed to be said.

I get it.

I have been fighting this fight since the beginning of June, with middle of July being the big flip. I could normally practice patience, but the fact she zoomed so fast, is really what bothers me. She says because she doesn't see that we can ever come back from this..

Well that is /her/ choice, not mine. She agrees that the D is a piece of paper. She says she has already divorced me in her heart, and I am not allowed to have it, because she doesn't think things would ever change.

When I read DR, it said to set specific goals. In July, my specific goal was to reconcile by November. That was before the D announcement. I am still making that my goal, however.

Meanwhile, I am trying to do me, and mostly ignore her (at least in her eyes, when I am alone, I think a lot about it still, but less and less each day)