Just got asked out for drinks on Wednesday. I am a mixed bag. I said yes, because I want to be able to detach and move on, but at the same time I am apprehensive, because I feel like this is betraying W (even though she says she wants the Divorce)
It is okay to do this right? This person isn't looking for anything serious. It's okay to socialize and make new friends and possibly form a romantic interest at this point right?
Nothing wrong with it. Put this all out of your head and have fun. DO NOT talk about your wife or marital situation. That would be a huge buzzkill for the evening.
Tx, I completely agree. I have no intention of doing so.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Kickboxing was awesome. I totally got my butt kicked, but it felt amazing. I felt alive. I signed up for a year on the spot. Can't wait for my private 1 on 1 lesson.
Talked to my dad, who I haven't talked much with during the separation, because he has been toxic to me. He is still very angry, but told me how much he loved me and was so proud of the positive steps. He said that while he is very angry at the W, he does hope that things can be saved. He asked if I wanted to stay with her, even if she dated and had sex with other men, and I said yes. I told him about my DB efforts, and he said that all seemed like good things to do.
Overall, pretty good day.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Happy for you! I'm glad the kickboxing went well. I'm thinking of signing up for Krav Maga, this is encouraging.
definitely seems good for anger management. I got a lot of anger and frustration out tonight
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Started to have a panic attack this morning, thinking about how I am going to be divorced soon, and how much I really miss W and want to work it out.
Texted some friends, and told them about some of the progress I have been making. The positive affirmation helped to calm me down a bit.
I soo do not want this. But I stopped telling W that. I am just doing me. Hoping she will have a change of heart.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
Start to meditate. Download Insight timer app (thanks 25&leah) and use those guided meditations to help you. It really helps. It may take a while and as a man you might have preconceptions but trust me, when you continue it and it starts to come more naturally, it does help for anxiety. I think currently it is helping me more than my A/Ds. My blood pressure has gone down, my rest heart rate is slower and I get sleep easier after a completed meditation.
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
So I broke off the 'date' portion of meeting up for drinks. I just Am NOT ready. I really miss physical and emotional intimacy. But I am not ready for it.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
She still wants to meet up for drinks though, but as friends with no expectations.
Married 9: Together 11 M:37 W:35 S:2 D:7 Bomb dropped 6/3/2017 W moved out 7/1/2017 Separation Filed: 8/1/2017 Modified to Divorce: 8/21/2017 Divorced: 10/5/2017
