She gets very angry with me when she hears that I might have seen another woman, or really anything that would make it look like I am getting a life. So I have pretty much done nothing.
First, welcome to the forum. You are not alone, and you will find tremendous support here.
Second, get and read Divorce Busting.
Third, don't worry about having done "the wrong" things. That doesn't matter. It's in the past. Start doing the right things.
Fourth, she gets angry if you see other women or get a life? So f***ing what? She's divorcing you!!!!! Grow a spine! I'm sorry if that is unduly harsh, but the ONLY WAY you have a chance of getting her back is to get a life. Desperation is NOT attractive.
Fifth, make sure you protect your assets.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17