Also, if complacency was part of her concerns in MR, going dark completely might not help. I know in my sitch it didn't so I had to tweak it because what I was doing was just confirming to her that her grievances from the MR were valid.
I also read from the Going Dark treads...
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If a person were to use "going dark" in the spirit of solely "no contact", they would be wasting their time, and setting themselves up for great disappointment.
I am trying to separate the two. No contact - strictly refers to not contacting the S. Going Dark refers to more of the detachment process mixed with the 180 correct?
How the heck can I tell if by me being dark right now is 'more of the same'? It is hard to recall in the past who was the one to do the making up; because we had so many little fights...because I was so passive.
M:30 W:28 T:9 MR:2.5 NoKids Seperation 1: 9/16-12/16 Move back in: 1/17 BD: 8/15 She moved out: 9/1
