Adultery doesn't count for much anymore in divorce court in many (maybe even most) states. It's a cause for divorce but won't affect the property settlement and probably not even custody unless there is some particularly egregious circumstance.
Tread, you've GOT to stop killing yourself about what she's doing or who with. HAVE to. You're just torturing yourself at this point. I know it [censored]--hell, everyone here knows just how much it does. But you're not going to be able to get a handle on things until you do.
