That requires that she feels she may lose you. That's the only "wake up" call she may have. I happen to think she is conflicted and maybe even wants you to fight for her.
Especially if she's seen complacency from you in the past.
If she is conflicted and may "want me to fight for her"; how is this possible with me being dark?
Read the 'Going Dark' thread again that Cadet had posted with the rest of the links. There is a lot of gray in there and it is meant to be used as a technique with the rest of the DB stuff.
I know it can be confusing - I was totally seeing it as black and white, but over time I have realized that there is a lot of room to play around. You'll figure it out as you test it.
Also, if complacency was part of her concerns in MR, going dark completely might not help. I know in my sitch it didn't so I had to tweak it because what I was doing was just confirming to her that her grievances from the MR were valid.
I know it's not easy and makes no logical sense, but I can tell you that going dark definitely brought out some strong reactions from my W. I took those reactions and recalibrated my strategy.
