Thanks Joseph. I have some parts of detachment down, but was missing the "love" in the equation.
I came home happy today (with this newfound freedom to be happy and detached) and I think she was surprised and liked it. Thinking back on it, I realize how she is usually not happy. Never is there laughter from her, and almost never a smile. I know from earlier she said she didn't like being here and wanted to get out.
I have plans for Friday with a friend who is divorced, so I hope for some insight and a good time. As an added benefit, this guy is a real lady killer. I have had a decent number of friends that were elite in this area, but this guy is the pinnacle. Hopefully I get some reflected glory to boost my ego.
In the meantime, I've been reminding my boys how much I love them. I've done this all along, but I'm making it a little more clear now. I'm hoping this can carry them through when the D drops. In a way, I think they are getting used to do things with one parent at a time, so maybe the transition won't be so hard.
M: 41 W: 41 Married 2003 2 boys 9 & 6 Bomb Dropped May 2017