Yes, and my parents had a number of times when they were disgusted with Mr. Fantastic that were YEARS old that they never mentioned.
However, they also advocated for repairing the marriage, so....?????
well Maybell, they could have seen negatives in him AND wanted you to stay married. My late mother would have preferred that, I'm sure.
Some of the feedback is not valid (it makes me laugh to hear my most arrogant brother say that my h was "sometimes arrogant" b/c coming from THAT brother, is rich).
But my sisters nailed the goofy "oblivious to another POV" situations well. Looking back, I do a lot of SMH. H had a tendency to sort of "laugh" when caught in a faux pas or thoughtless act.
I covered for him a lot, socially, and with the kids. Not sure if I was conscious of it then so much as thinking we were a good team (b/c I covered for him! )
Jesus, this^^ is one of those moments when you realize writing this stuff out can hurt AND can open your eyes in new ways.
It's a good thing I'm not literally slapping my forehead with every realization, or I'd have a concussion by now.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
