WAS Rushing into Legal Filings

[25yearsmlc]

It's too bad.

I think at this point I just need to submit my affidavits and evidence and go through the legal process. Otherwise she'll just always misinterpret/remember these things.


you won't change HER mind with your evidence or your spin/interpretation.

I mean, please understand it is about doing what you need to do to protect your legal rights, not about "setting the marital record straight."

We saw 4 (yes FOUR) different marriage counselors, who all told h that his stubborn insistence our family return to Alaska - because HE liked it there, was not okay.

One used the word "selfish", another said H was "making choices like a single man" and so forth. H refused to attend anymore unless we chose another one (hence us having 4).

H never wavered in his position, never once conceded he might be acting irrationally or selfishly or without any empathy. He suggested I was "irrational" to dislike the idea of moving there again.

I expressed that it was no longer about the place itself, but about how little he cared about anyone else. He was completely unfazed and untouched by this.

H never changed his mind. He's there now.

I don't bother saying "but it's COLD" there, h would say it's "Brisk". Don't waste your life trying to be right.

Choose your battles carefully.



She'll hate me for it but she already hates me -- and in 6 months -6 years she might remember different.

Are you suggesting that your evidence is going to escalate and wound her? IS that really needed?

Slinging mud can be very expensive. Usually not helpful, always worsens some things.

Just protect yourself and your kids (and be as objective as possible about that).

Also, what are you doing to work on the issues you have identified for yourself?