Do any of you ever learn that some of your family or friends had negative feelings towards your spouse, which you never knew before?? And now, they share them with you?
It's disconcerting...maybe it's better than if they loved him deeply, but I'm not so sure.
Just makes me mad at myself for not seeing things more clearly, sooner.
Yes. My mother said directly after the BD that I never seemed happy with her and I always was happy before her. She said XW always felt really cold towards them, our D and me. They noticed us drifting apart before I did. My dad said she felt we had issues because we didn't seem to cuddle anymore... I thought we were just the same. Somehow the family just sees the situation with a different perspective. It certainly is disconcerting...
In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced 2 young kids new relationship
