"JM", a distant friend of mine. His parents and my parents grew up together. He was living out of state, I helped him get a job so he could move back closer to home. His wife "MM." Their D9 "NM"
When xW took off, was to be part of this group of friends, to go out and party, to celebrate her freedom from the responsibilities of marriage." Just happened there was a single guy (OM?) as part of this group, 10 years older than her, dead end job, run down house, financial trouble, and a drinking problem. Perfect, he's fun and free! The rest of the group is also a bunch of partiers.
So, over the next nearly 2 years, they lived it up. Overnight parties (one was at my house while I was living at my parents), concerts, hotel rooms every other weekend, an out of state vacation, etc.
xW was responsible for spoiling the kids, and "continuous entertainment" of the children, I am sure as part of the "favorite parent" contest, trying to win the kids over so they want to be with her, and to make up for all the "fun" they missed out on because I'd point out facts (out of money, running TOO much, etc). This included the kids having friends over, nearly every single night, and mostly overnights.
This group brought their kids with to party, the responsible thing to do! The "friend's" daughter "NM" I mentioned above, was my D11's friend (by xW's choice more then D11's choice), they were in ALL the same activities. "NM's" parents really wanted a kid, though not so they could be responsible for her. xW had her over all the time. But "NM" had a thing for my S12. Guess what happened next? Well, time for them to explore, right? They were given unlimited access to each other, so what would be the limit of what they could do? There was no limit!
So, this went on for over a year, at hotels, xW's house, etc, etc, all under xW's nose. Eventually "NM" decided to tell her parents. Lots of missing pieces to the story, lots I still don't even know as this is fairly new. But, it got reported, S12 is now in big trouble, S12 and D11 can't be together unsupervised and can't be at the same house overnight. Eval's are coming up to decide S12's fate.
